WAS wanting to move across the world - help

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So, I told her I was going out tomorrow - didn't give any details, but just wanted to make sure she didn't have plans so that one of us could be here to look after the kids.

She said fine.

I noticed after that her mood went sour.

She then told me that she is going out tonight. And has.

Also, she complimented me today about how I'm taking care of everything around the house. And then added "if you had done this 5 years ago, things could have been different today"

She then kept saying that it isn't just about problems in the past year. I said to her I never said it was.