Thanks guys, looking forward to moving ahead! As I said before, physically got in great shape but mentally really bad. Before BD I was killing it at work. Moving from manager to partner wouldn't be far fetched in a few years until BD. Since March I've been a YUGE piece of crap employee. They bill me at 175 a hr and I'm doing so bad my average billing rate is 60. Man worried about R with my W has just threw me in the crapper. So that is my first priority. That would be a huge confidence boost. Next is stop talking negative and blaming all this on A. It's not Ws job to get me where I want to be. Also I need to stop taking basically 100% of this A. Got so stuck in that. I really told my wife it's my fault, crazy right! In all seriousness if she came back before I would just cater to everything so she doesn't leave again. Not a great way to live.

Wsh, I may look into a coach in about a month. I have a bachelor party in Vegas in a few weeks and I just plan on blocking the relationship out until after I get back. I need some time to clear the cobwebs out. I'm afraid I wouldnt take full advantage at the moment. My brain has been in warp speed here lately.

I see you haven't posted on yours lately, what's the deal with your R?


M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year
T 7 Years

Wife left October 2016
Affair began August 2016

Me 31 years old
Wife 29 years old