Still bad at DB

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From what I read, my stich looks pretty bleak compared to others.

It's clear your wife still has a lot of interest in you. You are doing much better than many others. My wife dropped off the face of the planet towards me when she left, as if I was dead to her. More like, she left planet Earth...

W had affair and moved in with OM in October 2016. We still talk regularly. We both cant seem to completely let go. I'm really close because this is tiring. I was a distant husband. Being distant keeps rattling in my head so I'm screwing up DB. I do great for a few weeks then wife plays the victim card and I get sucked in. I feel terrible about my role as the H so I basically 180ed my distance which is the opposite of DB. I was only clingy at BD though. Ive settled down a lot.

Going no contact on your wife isn't Divorce Busting, if neglecting your wife was what greatly contributed to her leaving you to begin with. MWD says this herself in her Last Resort Technique video series, available from this website. (https://divorcebustingtraining.mykajabi.com/store/Q5UUUmn4)

She told me on Sunday she's not very attracted to OM and still finds me very attractive. She said he gives her a ton of attention and is so proud of her. Not sure if I want to wait that out.

She is with the guy that gave her the most love and attention. I think going dark on her, or no contact, will convince her that she made the right choice.

I really think you should talk to a Divorce Busting Coach. Because with all of the cake eating, and with this going on for so long, maybe you should go no contact. What seems to improve your situation with her? Talking to her, or not talking to her? Do whatever seems to be helping. Have you talked to a Coach? You said you make six figures. You seem to be able to easily afford it. Why not give it a shot? We aren't experts here. Coaches are trained and experienced.