Good for you, dale. Deciding that you're not going to keep doing that is a hard decision. Be ready for the backlash--when I stopped being a doormat, what I got was "I can't believe what an a-hole/duck/whatever you've become" any time I stood up for myself. She wanted me to be broken, weak, and available for her in case she ever deigned to want to fix things, and showing any kind of strength resulted in a tantrum.
If yours does the same, just remind yourself that you're doing what you NEED to do for your own well being, and that you're strong enough to get through it. Because you are.
