First consultation briefly was: Therapist: decide what you want: Me: I want to save marriage W: I don't know Therapist: you have 3 options we can work on, please decide. First is saving marriage, second is living together as friends for the benefit of the child, and third is divorce in friendly terms. Also one simple question was raised for my W: when was the time you felt alone in marriage? When did thing start to fall apart. I expected that answer: when 5 years ago we tried to have child, and she had miscarriage in 4th month.
After first therapy W cried whole day, her eyes were swollen when I came from work that day. After 2 weeks she did not decide anything.
In second therapy she decided: marriage cannot be saved, and since she can't divorce due to finance reasons only option is living together as friends for benefit of the child. That is the point where therapist said that this is ok option, but for it to work, both partners need to be equal, and she is not equal due to her constant crying and lack of self-fulfillment. Therapist also noticed that she has few clients that have same school as my W and that she has not heard anyone complaint of not being able to find job, and asked my wife to question if the problem is in her. After that she suggested for W to ask for professional help, different therapist who will work with her.
Last month was a rollercoaster, with first part beeing her angry with whole world, therapist, me (for taking child to grand-parents)... Last 2 weeks were ok, we even had sex few times and she seemed happy.
Next therapy is later this week.
Me38,W36,D9 M 10y, R 14y
10/11/2015 wants to leave 25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans Jan 2016 started DBing Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms Sep 2016 sleeping in same room
