Wife wants to leave marriage 4

[Coconut]

But some people don't respond well to kindness. You have to be harsh with them, because that's all they know and have proven to only respect that type of behaviour.

What exactly do you mean by this? Are you saying that by pushing the D through, you will be harsh to her?

If so, it's what she thinks she wants, it won't be harsh to her, in fact she will probably appreciate you doing all the work so she doesn't have to do any heavy lifting to get what she wants.

My suggestion, let her move out, go DARK. I mean, before she leaves, set up schedule for child, and do not talk to her at all. No texts other than emergency, any other necessary communication try and do by email (less personal than texts). Don't do anything to help with D, only do what you are required to do based on actions she takes. Just go dark.

Wanna be harsh, go dark, GAL, and be a great man and she will have to live with divorcing you if she does.. that's harsh.