First off, I don't know you IRL but I wish I did. Your H is an idiot. You are so much stronger than I am. You hold yourself so well after enduring this for 7 years, I think I would be in a straight jacket
Thank you for reaching out. I feel like I'm getting better at recognizing when I am going down the path of these feelings. It was triggered today by finding out some new information as the plot thickens, it doesn't change anything. H has a regional manager, a guy, who he really likes. The guy is married with children and very successful and I found it weird he was at the baby shower for H's female boss (office manager, works below the guy boss). He has a motorcycle and they all ride together, female boss, him, her daughter, her other children, but again found it weird he was hanging with her whole family like my H was. Well anyway, without confusing you all even more. This guy is having an affair with H's female boss. He just left his wife for her. So it makes more sense why the 4 of them are always together. The night H didn't come home when i was pregnant he sent pictures that he was with the guy boss and now when I go back it all makes sense that the 4 of them were together that night. Anyway, I know it changes nothing but it was just further realization of this 'new family' he has created much like last time.
So you're with my dad on having him served but not asking him to move out first? I have made arrangements for a friend to keep the boys on either the 16th or 17th in the evening (including the baby) just incase there is a problem. I would like him to come get his things and don't want the kids to be here at that time. How should I handle this? Have him served and say nothing and wait to see if he reaches out to me? If or when he reaches out to me do I ask him to come by and get his things? Should I have boxes here? Should I pack anything?
Sorry for all the questions I just need a clear plan for myself. Unfortunately we have a soccer tournament down south like 2 days after he will be served. I thought about having him served the Monday after the tournament so that things won't be weird for the kids but I know that's probably not the right decision.
I don't think this will shake him, I don't think he will come sniffing. My dad said he believes it's about to get 100x worse once he gets served. He's on top of the world right now, he said there is no better life than the life H has right now in his mind and it's going to come crashing down and I'm going to be blamed again.
But IF he did, I would be strong, I won't give into anything. whenever I feel like I should be nicer or more forgiving or questioning myself I look at the pictures of H and OW posted together to remind myself of what he's doing to the boys and I.
What do you mean what kind of script I need? For when he comes at me about me filing? Sorry, I'm on about 3 hours of sleep and just getting back from a birthday party lol.
Thank you for the offer for your coaching sessions, I really appreciate it. I don't want to take them away from you though
