My wife of 14 years has really gotten into local theater for the past couple of years, which means she has been gone a lot while I watch the two kids. We have drifted apart and she blames me for yelling and name calling, which is unfortunately true. I have resent the fact that she parties with her new friends in "running lines" or cast parties. Her anger at me has grown to the point where she said she wanted me to get someone else pregnant so that she could divorce me. I wanted to work things out, so we are going to a marriage counselor. The counselor told me my wife was 99% out the door and I had to focus on me to make the marriage work. It was hard to believe I let things get so out of hand.
I then had some suspicions that things were not adding up, so I checked her phone (which she guards). I feel bad for doing it, but she always denied things when I confronted her and I felt she was hiding something. I found a lot of evidence of emotional cheating with several guys, but do not think she has had sex. I confronted her with this yesterday (I know, stupid idea) and she said she was sorry. However today she said, "I'm sorry. I can't do this. I don't know where to go this week, but you said something about wanting to stay together for the kids. I don't want that to be the reason you're with me. You're 50% done. I can sleep on the couch until I have an actual place to go." We later talked on the phone and I explained that I'm 100% committed to saving the marriage and it's not about the kids, however, I don't think that's going to make the difference.
