WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[hoosjim]

"I've told you I will not be in an open marriage; going to MC implies that I am trying to work on rebuilding our M."

To which her response would almost certainly be: "This is not an open marriage... I am not in touch with OM, have not seen him in over four weeks and have not been in any kind of contact for over two weeks."

I, of course, cannot vouch for the veracity of ^^^, though I have no proof or even any kind of tangible suspicion otherwise. Of course, OTOH, aside from turning on her phone's family tracker (which can actually be somewhat imprecise), telling me her phone password, and keeping me updated about her whereabouts on a regular basis, (and, allegedly, contacting OM to cut contact-- somewhat confirmed via my confrontation with OM) she has not really done anything all that concrete to prove to me she is trustworthy. Would be very easy for her to be engaging in contact with OM without me knowing, especially since I am not, other than what she has voluntarily done with her phone, monitoring her.

I guess it all sort of gets back to "what I am waiting for" from her. I haven't filed for divorce in the aftermath of the "continued phone contact" revelation from two weeks ago, though I have "pulled back". She has said she "wont move out". I have claimed the "preferred" bedroom. I am in the situation of the door still being, to most appearances, open. If she seems sincere about the counseling, that's a sticky response to have to make. Prolly best to say I "have difficulty trusting her motives and am just not comfortable doing that right now."(?)