And just to clarify, if she wants to R talk, you listen to what she has to say, validate if appropriate, but you don't provide input other than to reply to a question of "do you want to D", and you say that's not what I want right now.
What if she says "I want to go back to marriage counseling and give it another shot?" Not very likely at this point, IMO, but she had said something similar as recently as a couple of weeks ago in the immediate aftermath of the latest "reveal", but backed off of that when we had our "post-OM confrontation" talk. I'm honestly not sure she'd be ready for that right now and would kind of be suspicious of her motives but... Feel like I should be prepared if she suggests it.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
