No one here is going to be able to tell you if you're codependent or if your wife is a narcissist based on the brief description you've shared above, and really a diagnosis like that is beyond what you should expect to find on a public forum as I doubt anyone here has a degree in psychology.
We can offer you support and advice in reaching your goals, so tell us more -- what do *you* think of what your counselor is saying?
*Why* do you want to save your marriage?
What do you think of your wife's complaints that there is no passion between you?
What are you passionate about?
What are your goals for yourself?
Tell us more about what you want to accomplish and what you think is really going on here. Dig deep.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
