From what I read, my stich looks pretty bleak compared to others. W had affair and moved in with OM in October 2016. We still talk regularly. We both cant seem to completely let go. I'm really close because this is tiring. I was a distant husband. Being distant keeps rattling in my head so I'm screwing up DB. I do great for a few weeks then wife plays the victim card and I get sucked in. I feel terrible about my role as the H so I basically 180ed my distance which is the opposite of DB. I was only clingy at BD though. Ive settled down a lot. W has now asked several times what I want and when I reply she goes cold. Not seeing many options except D. I see that as a final last resort. Some on here say R is tougher than DBing so I'm not sure I have that effort left since my W is a cant say no person. Its going to take an act of congress to break up with OM.
She told me on Sunday she's not very attracted to OM and still finds me very attractive. She said he gives her a ton of attention and is so proud of her. Not sure if I want to wait that out.
Treasure, I know, I know! Don't know what got in me. I thought maybe if I'm the good guy she will come around. Also, I wanted to be the good guy when others find out. It felt good at first when I got pity but that got old quick.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
