Your sitch definitely sounds like mine in the beginning. I caught the A in the first 2 weeks. They had sex a few times on a cruise and then it was text and phone conversations in the middle of the night from that point. But it was apparently enough to have my W still contacting him months later. There is no real connection or anything these two have in common.
My W being the romantic and very emotional person she is might be rationalizing her behavior by saying that her cheating on me might be some greater person. As if ahe was meant to be with this guy. Even though he has 3 kids and a W. Not to mention he has a history of cheating on his W.
W would never just admit that she messed up. And just work things out with me. So follow your gut, if you see improvement. But from what I have observed first hand. OM presence will keep that fog up.
