That last sentence is what I hold onto. PLUS the fact that my W has continued and in increasing manner interacted in a positive manner.
I think for a lot of people it feels fast. It is absolutely fast. But I also think that my W did held up hope for years and she finally sees that her hope wasn't misguided. I also caught the A right at the start. Yes, they had sex... twice. Yes, they were right in the butterfly stage of discovering a new person. But because of OM's work schedule they didn't have a chance to meet during regular hours. He wasn't able to deliver on a lot of her other emotional needs. Right when she was exploring that as an option she saw me changing for the better. She was skeptical but saw consistency.
In many ways HER actions almost come across as if she read DR and is following up. I cannot really explain it. She doesn't let situations escalate and instead tries to get a balance back. THAT's what is giving me hope and fosters compassion for me.
Our MC has also stabilized a lot of the anxiety and tension.
She felt trapped and not empowered. And has increasingly empowered herself and saw me no longer as obstacle to that empowerment or even as something that would disappear if she finally put herself first.
Besides we aren't there yet.
People have the right to be skeptical about what I wrote but I follow my gut...
