I think, Tobias, this is one of those horribly complicated nightmare sitchs where we all go through a process of trying to see clearly in the dark. I think we all have lots of emotions, they move around, and sometimes I know that has shaded my posts.
You have the right to choose your stance. You know your W and your M before this chaos. I'm sure a lot of people thought I was very gullible to stay in limbo with my disappearing H as long as I did, or that I am foolish to love him even though I hate what he has done to his life and mine. I couldn't save my M and I miss my H, but what was always important to me was to feel that, no matter what happened, I had kept faith with my own values and treated the person I loved for almost 20 years with compassion.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
