I think the point that posters are trying to get across is for arguments sake let's say your wife is no longer in an A with OM and they are just friends. Do you know how difficult that will be to move forward in your relationship?
Read Stormchasers or Pinns posts on how difficult it is w/o their OMs involved at all anymore.
IMO the friendship has to end when someone has stepped outside the marriage. IMO that should be a boundary.
