25 a better analogy on my part would have been an illness (nurture) vs something genetic like eye color (nature). For me, and only for me, this is how I view my sitch and my exh.

also, everyone's sitch is different, and everyone's viewpoint is different. You've certainly been through a very long haul, and continue to go through it. I'm happy to take this to my thread so we don't hijack Irish's. xoxoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver