here's another thought. as a Catholic, part of the sacrament of marriage vs the sacrament of Holy Orders is that in marriage you truly learn Christ and God's love for us by fully loving and knowing one other person vs serving others and seeing Christ and God's love in many.
By that definition, it seems to me that even this horror show known as MLC presents us with an opportunity to learn about Christ's and God's love for us, through loving and forgiving our errant mates. What I mean is that we humans have an infinite capacity to epically mess up anything and everything, yet we are still taught that Christ and God love and forgive us.
It seems to me that as married persons our vows were to try to emulate that love to our mates, in sickness (MLC) and health, for better or worse (who knew how bad worse really was?), for richer or poorer (especially given the MLCr's propensity to spend spend spend), til death do us part.
Just because we are no longer married doesn't seem to me to be a reason to stop loving someone. And I believe loving someone doesn't mean we need to put up with the MLC BS, abuse, lack of remorse, etc. And to truly love, doesn't that mean we will also forgive?
It's like being angry at someone for having hazel eyes instead of blue ones. They are what they are right now. We can't change them. We can't expect them to give or be that which they are not capable of giving or being.
And here's the unexpected bonus for us: we don't have to live with it any more.
And here's the truly saddest part: no matter how fast or how far they run they still DO have to live with it.
Sorry for my philosophical ramblings on your thread. Clearly it's time for me to turn in for the night.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
