KGirl - new life, new stuff #2

[Georgiabelle]

K,

I don't know if everyone feels this way (and excuse all of my typos. I have been in the car for seven hours and monsoon rains. I left my a state ago:-) but I think people can care or do nice things for you but it still doesn't mean that they want to be in a relationship with you. I understand that that can be confusing and I don't want to sound harsh. If someone doesn't want to make you a priority doesn't mean that they are a deplorable person. It just means they aren't relationship material for you. And that's who we are focusing on because you are a fantastic lady!

Ginger and 25 make some interesting points. And sometimes when you write you remind me of a friend. She is a lovely lady. She's about to be 40 and she wants to get married and have a child. She dated a man off and on for eight years. Mostly off. I do think he cared for her but it was very clear to me that he did not feel the same way about her as she did him.

After the last breakup where she said she wanted to get married and have a child, she convinced herself that he could not give up all that they had. And after a year of not hearing from him, she reached out to him and I genuinely felt bad for both of them when he responded. He told her that he did not want to waste anymore of her time and that he did not want those things. And that he wished her well. I want to be clear that my friend is not crazy. But because she wanted it so much, she convinced herself that he was a fool to let it get away. And I tried to tell her that it didn't mean the same to him because he didn't value it the way she did. And I genuinely do you think he cared about her and wanted her to find what she was looking for but he was not going to do that. She spent another 2 years wondering what she would do when he came back. This is a lovely, smart, caring woman who simply struggled with the one she thought was the one, did not feel the same. And please know I'm not saying you are delusional. I'm acknowledging that some things are easier said than done. I also believe that sometimes people say things in the moment and feelings can change-especially when something is new. Again, his behavior is not a reflection of you but rather him.

I know dating is difficult. However, there are so many wonderful people out there. You just have to find your fit. Gosh I sound preachy! Hang in there.