KGirl - new life, new stuff #2

[KGirl]

I don't know. I don't get it at all. Maybe it's because I'm fixating too much on the things I see as promising and not the negative things. Like why offer to bring me "whatever you need" earlier in the week when I was sick? And why tell me about his plans to buy carpet and other mundane things if he isn't that interested? And why not just say "I just don't feel the same way about you" which is how he broke up with his last girlfriend? He's obviously capable of saying what he thinks. But yes, maybe it comes down to point in life and regardless of level of interest in me in particular, he does not have the capability/energy/interest in sustaining a relationship right now. Which is hard because...cutesy quotes on the internet say "if it's the right person you'll make time for them."

I have a list I made of things that I would need in a person inbetween R's. Looking back some of them are really more wish-list than need ("likes to read" - meh) but others are much more important. This guy had all of them besides "follow through on what he says and does." I guess I chalked it up to him being preoccupied with other things and that maybe as we grew closer/I became more important, he would be more dependable (like he is with his work which he clearly values) but yes, maybe he will always be like that and I need to either accept or decide I cannot deal with it. As you said, I was betting on potential and not what was in front of me.