In all honesty, I think she was mad that I would not move out for 90 so she can make up her mind. I pushed her to seek the D as I was mad and at that time felt more strongly about an A.

Is it stupid to think that the reality and finality of a D has settled in, that and the lower pressure sitch that I created by following the rules? That that is the cause of her change in attitude?

I know I feel different now that much has settled in.
In reading about boundaries, both here and elsewhere is that they must be stated.
What I want is to know what her temperature is. I want to ask her what are her current thoughts and feelings.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.