I am not informed enough about your marital history to know if your w has a reason to feel as distant as she did.
But I believe nearly every wife justifies an affair -maybe more than most h's.
I think it's rarer for a woman to have an A wherein she says "it was just sex/didn't mean anything." YES I know that's a sexist generalization, and I'm sorry about that.
So in fairness to your w, maybe there are things you both need to prove about your marriage potential before she feels all in.
AND I hate saying this^^^.
It makes you feel as if you are in the "Pick me" dance w/OM, and that sukks.
So I have 2 questions for you.
1) what would be different/better in your m, going forward?
and
2) what are you willing to tolerate? Do you have a point beyond which you won't go?
Try to figure that out before it gets crossed, rather than deciding as you go along.
When the lines are blurred or shifting, it gets a lot harder to enforce boundaries b/c you sort of don't have any.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
