WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[Coconut]

For now just keep working on yourself, be friendly when around her (good morning, good night, etc.), but no R talks. You didn't need to "clear things up" that were left hanging, she doesn't need to know where you are right now and you don't need to know where she is. She NEEDS to cut contact with OM and get past the effects of that before any R talks need to occur.

You may say "If I don't talk to her then she will just go to OM", and I will reply that if she wants to try and save M, she will NOT go to OM and will take time to herself. If she does go to OM, then she isn't where she needs to be to try and reconcile. So just do your own thing for the next month or two and see what happens.


And just to clarify, if she wants to R talk, you listen to what she has to say, validate if appropriate, but you don't provide input other than to reply to a question of "do you want to D", and you say that's not what I want right now.