WW in A. NC promise broke. Separation? (5th thread

[hoosjim]

I don't know about you but "don't touch me it seems weird" sounds creepy stalkerish stuff.

That wasn't an exact quote, more of a statement of the dynamic. She has said on more than one occasion to me and to MC, and not necessarily in response to anything I have actually done, that "the thought of being touched by you just doesn't feel right" or "feels weird." Now, sometimes she has been in a place where it obviously doesn't "feel weird", but maybe she was just being manipulative, who knows. Her demeanor and thoughts on such things seem almost, at times, to not be irrational, and she will completely forget things she has said and done or reverse stances with no recollection of her previous stance (This all just since the advent of the "A") MOST recently, she made this comment after we had been having a talk, sitting facing each other indian-style on the bed, and at a point where she had gotten a little emotional, I had taken her hand in a VERY NATURAL and not at all unusual, awkward, or out of the ordinary way, pretty much like you would do with ANYONE of the opposite sex in that situation. To her, at that point, that felt "weird." Contrasted with two weeks earlier where she had hugged me, kissed me, initiated a tickling exchange while joking around with me, and at one point "tucked me in" in bed when I was sleeping in a little and climbed "over" me, straddling me for a few seconds after doing so. All in the same 24 hours.

So... nothing "stalker"-ish going on, here. Just a whole, whole whole lot of flip-flopping and, at times, mixed signals, though, by and large she has not been hesitant to slam the door on me and tell me how much she does NOT want any kind of physical interaction with me and that she does NOT want me throwing compliments her way, no matter how sincere, because "coming from hoosjim, they don't make her feel like she thinks such comments ought to make her feel".