Out of the pity party now. Or pretty much. See, this DB detachment does work as I would have been sobbing a few months ago.

I know that other people with MLC spouses have seen the same incomprehensible hatred and rewriting of love and shared history. I'm sorry for all of you too, but it helps to know I'm not crazy and I didn't imagine almost 20 years. I have seen others survive divorces they didn't want and disappearing spouses who pop up and down. I know he is still spinning.

All I can do is remember who he was, love him from a distance and protect myself from more destruction. I don't expect to see him ever again. We have no children so there are no ongoing links between us. It seems likely that he will marry OW and live happily ever after as a half-human. And that makes me sad for both of us, but there is nothing I can do but GAL and accept that sometimes love and compassion are not enough.

I'll be a bit weepy tonight, but tomorrow is a fresh day by the sea.

Me: 53 H:38
T:20 M:14
BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression
S 1/16
PA 4/16
H filed 1/17