My wife announced she wanted a divorce about 5 weeks ago on a Friday and went to solicitor on the Monday and told the kids that evening (7,13,11) She said she didn't love or even like me any more and that she never wanted to be intimate again (even though we had barely touched in 9 years). We have been married for 29 years and were separated for several months 22 years ago before she came back, She says I didnt change then. We are still in same house but sleeping separately from announcement. She is very angry and bitter/cruel towards me. At the start I asked if we could put the D on hold for 3-4months to give us a chance to get help. Initially she accepted and then within an hour retracted. She will not talk to me and says she has been planning this for 1-4 years! I have not pleaded or begged but I have challenged her early on - stopped doing that now. I have just started with DR book but seems no way through her force field She is good with the kids (although seems to be trying to pull them away from me - esp 13 yr old daughter who is very angry and repeating her mothers criticisms to my face), but treating me with disdain and as if I don't exist/already divorced. Very painful although i have tried to remain positive and not get upset in front of her. I have started work on myself and have had some councelling. Is there any way her heart will soften - I love her still but suffered years of rejection and push me/pull you behaviour from her. I seem to be in a battle to save my family including her - is there any hope?
Hello Luther,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
I'm glad that you have already started DR. Yes, there is hope that her heart will soften.
Focus your time, effort and energy into being the best Luther and Dad that only a fool would leave. Make these changes for you and your children.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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