I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. That was what I understand you to be saying.

But I'm going to stay out of your thread from here on.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16