Is it considered snooping if my WW/WAS/MLC'r accidentally leaves her FB messenger open and I see her messaging with her EA? She mentioned to him that the big reason my WW want's to end the marriage is because she felt I was too strict on our children yet she didn't file for majority custody?? She told him that I have made so many positive changes but it's most likely too late, and then I read the most hurtful thing I could have ever seen. She said that she most likely never loved me??? WTF?? Then I had to remind myself of the Sandi's rules that they will speak in absolute negatives. Anyway..... she left me some voice messages that I need to keep the kids as our main focus and that she doesn't appreciate me going out without telling her where I'm going(I did tell the kids). S17 had some activities this past weekend, WW didn't go but texted me a few times wanting an update on how he was doing, finally replied and said he was doing good, told her that she should be there to watch and support him. She had more important things to do like go out with her friends and leave my other two children at home by themselves with making them dinner. They are old enough to be home normally but things are different now. These messages she leaves me always have the same tone to them, that I am not putting the kids first and if "I drag this out it will affect them" and "do not put them in the middle of this". I just don't get how she can blame me for something that she has done? I didn't step outside of our marriage, I didn't quit on the marriage, I didn't file for divorce, I'm not the one trying to sell the house, but yet it's all my fault according to her! Thank god I don't believe this anymore! Again, I'm all over the place. BTW, had a bunch of fun with my kids this weekend, they are my saving grace in all this mess.
