Aww, Mighty - you had a rough go of it, you never really got much resolution, the way your ex hid his affair, did the touch and go, the OW getting pregnant. I understand. But the mantra that got me through my divorce was this: let go or be dragged. Once I truly let go, I was able to move forward.
I know you'd like to see him punished. But living well really is the best revenge. My ex has the beach house and the hot young wife and the income that's twice mine. But as I mentioned above, that idyllic life didn't last long before the reality of mortality reared its ugly head.
Meanwhile, I've made my way. I've had my dating adventures ( and misadventures!) but I wouldn't trade the experiences. I don't have the disposable income my ex does, but my finances are in good shape nonetheless. I've made progress professionally, and have been fortunate to learn to play drums and vibraphone and have toured with a professional singer-songwriter friend. Tonight I played with her in a prestigious local venue - one I have aspired to play at ( and a venue where I have seen many famous acts in the past).
My point is - letting go, and accepting that my ex was gone on his own path, and that I wasn't responsible for him anymore - freed me to pursue a life that I would never have had with my ex.
What are you doing in your life for YOU right now? What do you aspire to? What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail. You
