To be honest Treasur it seems like the sort of plan I would come up with. Specific, detailed, and CONTROLLING!!!!
I've tried to let go of the idea that I know what anything looks like anymore. Maybe this wasn't your issue, but I was CONTROLLING in the marriage. I thought we had debates and decided things together, but looking back I did steamroll him until I got my way. Even when I knew he wasn't happy I just pressed on with the decision.
I'm sure he'd say I'm doing the same thing with the move, but hey I am the one that has to live there. I wanted to move 2,000 miles away. S decided on this place about 240 miles away from him, which is in the general area where S was born and we lived for 16 years, so totally understandable.
How about you just settle the financial stuff since that is in both of your interests and then you see where it goes from there. You don't have to throw in your heart. You don't have to let down your guard. Just listen. I love that quote about how we have one mouth and two ears so we should listen twice as much as we talk. That sure isn't me, but I'm working on it.
