Hi sandi2,

Thanks for the thoughts.

I really don't think it is all planned out to be honest. Maybe I'm being naive.
Either way, they can't take the kids anywhere without passports!

When/if I find the boundaries being broken, then I will use my balls, have no fear.

I just feel that, at this point, I need to do a 180 and also let her get more of the anger out.

I am intending to change. I am intending to give a fair bit, but there are limits, don't worry.

Again, I'm going to have to trust my instincts about her here. Just hope I'm not wrong here!

Me: 47 Wife: 39
Together: 20 yrs Married: 16 yrs
S:9, S:7, D:5, D:1
BD: 7/4/2017
Separation (though living in the same house) 7/20/2017
?????