Wow. Just wow. That is a serious money grubbing act.

I think you've been given a new lease on life. It's a great opportunity to strengthen boundaries so that you attract a person who will honor them.

Onwards . . .

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced