Thanks all for the birthday wishes. So nice to receive them!!
Job - interesting that he's looking for his authentic self. The last week he has made some pronouncement like statements. He says them loudly, almost like he is trying to convince himself?
H used to be friends with older, very steady sorts of guys; men 20 years older. It took me years to connect that it was a father figure thing and these men were even his father's age! Of course this is no longer his peer group in MLC.
Anyway, the other day he announced "all my friends are much older guys." S13 said "no, not really." H said it's always been that way. (Not the last 3 years.) Maybe he is in a time warp?
At dinner the other night he announced that if he won the lottery he'd start orphanages that could really change the world for kids. This one surprised me. He has not shown this level of depth in a lonnnnng time. He said he wanted to help those kids who were stuck in bad home situations where their parents didn't really want them. (I think this is him working through childhood issues; maybe wishing someone rescued him?)
He said (really loudly): "I LOVE to read." (He used to and has in fact started again.) But it's odd how he announces it. He's just missing he bullhorn.
He came into the kitchen and was so excited about something; an idea he had. We had a normal conversation and he was so like his old self. (Don't worry, I don't take it as a sign that he's woken up! Just a moment in time, I know.)
I bought s11 some new sliders. They are one size too big. They've been by the front door for a few weeks now. I bought them larger as the size below was a touch small and I was worried he'd outgrow them.
I took Friday off and had a great day with the kids. In the evening I came home w s11 and two of his friends. H came out of the dorm room and asked whose big shoes were by the door. I answered s11's friend's (not knowing he was talking about the shoes that had been here for weeks). H said they were so big. I said I guess his feet have grown. H went and got the sliders I bought for s13 and asked if they belonged to the friend. I said those were s13's. It's weird he hadn't seen them prior to this.
The hilarious thing? He then went and asked s13 if they were his! And did it right in front of me!!! Like I was lying?
The shoes have been there for weeks! But on my day off he notices them? Does he think I brought a guy into the house with my kids here?!?
I am sitting quiet and carefully listening. I hope some of this may help future LBS who have a live-in MLCer.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
