I have a brother who did not marry until he was close to 40. He is a computer/engineering nerd, but good looking. Married a divorced mom with a son and then they adopted two little girls. He would have married someone like you no question.
I have another brother. Lovely, sweet man. Married a complete narcissist as well. Has three daughters that he has done everything for. His wife cheated and left him. He has not even dated that I know about in the 8-10 years they have been divorced. He has been single-handedly raising his daughters. His ex went back to her native Australia leaving him with the girls. Awesome woman. He always wanted a son. He would have married someone like you no question.
I didn't have to look hard to find two professional men who love kids and would think nothing of becoming a dad to three more. Please do not sell yourself, or your boys, short. Please do not think that yours is the end all and be all.
Every dog gets one free bite. Yours has now had two. At this point, it is on you if you give him the chance to do it to you again. I don't say that to be cruel, but forewarned is forearmed.
You have got to stop looking for every possible sign that you have a future with this guy. Seriously, he can't pay the electric bill. You are on the cusp of financial independence and professional success. You do not want to be dragging behind you a burned out thirty something looking to take it easy and shirk his responsibilities.
