Maybell - I definitely don't think that in the slightest. In fact, he was the one that wanted to have children first. Also, about a year after we reconciled I really had wanted a third child that we had always talked about. However after a few months when my schedule for school started getting busier I told H I didn't think it was a good idea. He ended up pushing it more saying he wanted a baby and said let's leave it open to if it happens it's meant to be. Well we all know how that story ended. So while it may be not what he wants NOW. He did want these things without me pushing. Hell, I didn't want to buy the property. Financing fell through less than24 hours before closing and I told H I felt this was a sign it wasn't meant to be. He said no he wanted to build our dream house etc so we emptied our savings to pay cash and still close the next day.
Hi Blu- I agree his actions now and since BD have shown this isn't what he wants. It's unfortunate that this is almost identical to his behavior last BD. Like my grandmother says it's like a flip of a switch and he's gone. She said he can't face adversity.
I agree he's destructive which is why I have to protect the boys and I. Again, things are following the same path as last time and now that he has went and bought a secret phone to speak with his OWs wth the next thing will be to tell me he doesn't have the money. He still never paid the electric but I've been out of town so I'll deal with it when I get back. It's sad that this has to repeat itself again. I guess if there's anything I can find comfort in it will be that hopefully one day he will see what he saw last time. But now I'm doubting myself if that was even genuine.
