I think there is a big difference between wanting something and liking the idea of something. He may like the idea of being M with kids and a home, but it's clearly by his actions not what he wants. Perhaps his mind changed as he saw the selfless commitment it required? The way you describe his behaviors and choices over the last several years are not that of a family man!
Look. my H had an A and devastated our M and family too. He did however continue a solid relationship with his kids and he did not hurt us financially with giant/selfish purchases. I know I can't compare our Hs, but I do think that your H hasn't just left the M, but rather acted out in every way that is destructive. I can't imagine the strong confident T wants a guy like this. You gotta know your worth girl!
I know that dating is the last thing on your mind, but there are plenty of good men out there that would love to date a woman with 3 kids and have a insta family. Maybe a mature and has-his-chit-together older guy? Some day you will be an awesome 4 for the price of 1 catch!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
