It seems clear where I stand with this guy. He can obviously make time for things that are important to him. He spent the last two weekends with his immediate family "just hanging out" to the point where he had no time for me either weekend. And saw his one sister again this past Thursday (but not me at all this week). So obviously I am fairly low on the list of priorities.
I'm very sorry this happened. But yes, the reality is, you are low on his list of priorities. His family and his home are coming first right now. But that is in no way a reflection of YOU. It is just really where he is in life right now. And that is not what you want, so he is not for you.
Another one of antecdotes. My BF before the last one was long distance. I did all the driving, I went to him. His work always came first and he came first too. he claimed to love me, but it was only when I took the 3 hour drive to see him and I was THERE. I told him I needed to see more effort and he wouldn't give it. So, it was over. This guy was automatically in an R with a new girl right away and they have been together for over a year. She's right there available for him. I know it is not what I wanted in my life. I don't want something to be a convenient accesspry around that molds into someone elses lifestyle. This guy, BTW, will still say to this day, I was the best R he ever had. Only the best R he ever had isn't a priority for him.
When you have someone truly ready, you'll know it.
