devvo, I'm so sorry you are here and going through this. My thread is over on the MLC board. There are a lot of similarities in our stories, but that is usually the case.
I came here not knowing what I really wanted and thinking I wanted to save my marriage. I now know that I just need to get out of it. I think figuring that out is mission one, but not really something you can rush.
You've probably figured out that there is no benefit to telling him about your feelings. He just doesn't care. With mine I still like to do 180s because I imagine his frustration when he assumes that I will freak out over something and then I never say anything about it.
What do you do with it? You live your best life and put him in your rearview mirror. You try not to contact him unless you have to. You get a life and make the life you have about you and what you want. He either makes a note and turns in toward you again or he doesn't. Either way you still have to get a life and move on. Life is funny that way, the answer to both sides of the equation is exactly the same.
