A familiar story with questions..

[RR17]

Thanks for your response Sandi. You definitely seem to get it. I feel I get it too, but it can be difficult when you are involved.

By reading too much, I mean everything. This board, the books, other misinformation.

Right now, she seems to be empowered by the D discussion that she had on Monday. Also, she seems intreaged by the fact that I haven't inquired about this meeting or the R for that matter. I won't go as far as to say she is holding it over my head but she seems empowered or more confident.

We had dinner out alone again tonight. I let her do most of the talking and I validate. She likes this dynamic.

I continue to vacillate about the suspension of the A. At one point days ago she let me go through her phone and she gave me the password to her laptop. Which I have not searched. I am still cautious. She may have just gained some self-confidence and after being alone for 2 days reached this WAW status. Also, I realize that piecing was not handled correctly after the last EA.

I have read volumes of your and others post on here. I know that a WAW and WW are to be handled differently.
I know the trap that is easily fallen into when W shows some positive response.

I want to do the correct things, not what feels like progress and is ultimately worse in the long run.

I feel she is not going to show remorse because she doesn't feel she has done anything wrong at this point.

Some new behaviors:
She is very contemplative when I ask her a question.
She seems very willing to do things alone with me. She knows from my distancing that it is not expected.

Neither of us explains where we are going and there is little obligation to disclose when we return. Most of her stuff is with my Ds.

Continued WW behavior:
There is a selfish air about her.
Empathy that I have explained and she seem oblivious about. I have now stopped all R discussions. She never starts them unless BDing.

I feel I am treating her as a WAW/WW hi-bread if that makes sense. DR talks about becoming this better H and this is where I get confused. Monitor and adjust but pull back etc...
At this rate will she bottom out?

I can handle knowing or not knowing for sure about an A, for the time being.

If it arises I will reinstall the camera.