Sounds like your gut instinct knows two things - that aggressive control is part of his pattern now and it triggers old learned feelings and responses in you. Good thing is you see that, so it is a great opportunity to GAL by teaching yourself your own way to do boundaries and assertion.
Detaching so you can be calm and acting with your head not your heart or fears. Really getting that you are only responsible for YOUR behaviour, not his. Knowing that you have the right as a human being to be treated with respect or to walk away from situations or people who can't or won't treat you that way. You sound as if you're making big steps already.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
