I'm just feeling a little frustrated right now that she's not making any effort to get started on the D. I know that I can just file and maybe I will have to
From where I sit, it appears you have experienced a lot of frustration due to waiting on her throughout your DBing time. You were either waiting for her to end her A, or to tell you where she was with the R, or getting another cell phone, or something else. Now, you are waiting on her to make some effort to start the D proceedings. Can you not see it is a pattern you have? If you are ready to D, then why continue to wait around on her?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
