I am also surprised Maybell. Not by the sentiment, but the advice/comment.
My DB coach was a Godsend who never defended my h's actions, but helped me stop spinning. Showed me how ineffective my anger was (even if understandable.)
In my case, showing anger simply fueled h's victimhood and sometimes my anger ate ME up inside.
I had easily a dozen sessions with her.
I'm sorry for that - ugh.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
