Hi, so good to come here (as I do occasionally!!) and see a post from you. It feels as if you have received some closure from your xh.
The way you have pulled your life together and dealt with all the stuff that life has thrown at you has been inspirational. You are courageous and loyal, and have travelled such a long way from so much baggage that tried to pull you back, with your birth family and xh. I admire you greatly.
I have just had my first grandchild, which is an amazing experience, although tinged with a little sadness to be doing it alone.
As with all life changing events it sent xh into a tailspin (and he was doing quite nicely in relative terms for a long term MLCer!) He is now back into the world of no contact, and anger with me. The good news is that it washes over me these days. I even find it funny. In a fit of rage a few weeks back he told me that the real reason he left me (this is coming up to 12 years folks) is that I was bossy. And here was me thinking I had a character flaw. I mean is that the best he can do for abandoning his wife and three children after a long marriage?
We make our own lives. Your words are wise and you have walked the walk.
