If its any consolation, W and I had a pretty rough fight last week, to the point where I just felt absolutely no emotional connection to this woman. I'm sure the feeling was mutual.
I was pretty detached and really didn't even want to be around her. She stayed out and this suited me fine. I could care less if she was with OM at that point, that's how unfeeling I was.
In a couple of days, we started talking and settled down. Back to normal, however you define normal nowadays.
In my case, it always comes back around. It's rough and it feels AT THAT TIME that we're done. And I'm ok with it. I'm not scared and calling family, posting, whatever. I'm a big boy now and I can handle it.
Its a good feeling....its an unusual feeling, but one we have to get used to. And that's also ok!!!! Its nice not being scared anymore.
Storm, I could write the exact same thing as you did! When things go sour or we get into arguments, I do not feel fear and anxiety, however I almost become immediately shut down and detached. I feel as if I am okay with it ending right then and there. It can happen fast too. It's hard to describe. Then things settle down. Perhaps it is protective mechanism we have developed from the trauma? Either way, I do know that if this M didn't work out, I would be fine. ... I mean we all will, we just have to get to the point of believing it.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
