Finding my way out of the dark - Part 3

[Accuray]

You're doing completely fine holding--and I'm glad you're exploring your emotional and vulnerable side with your friends and kids. One of the ways I've changed through this process is that there's not much left (if anything) that I'm ashamed of or embarrassed by, so if someone asks or I want to talk about something I just lay it out and let the cards fall where they may. It's made all my relationships more authentic.

You will feel a void, and you will feel a lot of internal pressure to fill the void. For many men post divorce you tend to go a little crazy and overdo the dating and rush to get into a relationship. I could caution you not to do that but really it wouldn't matter, some things you need to go through for yourself.

Codependence specifically means that you have blurred the lines between your sense of self and W. Is that really what you mean or have you just come to be comfortable in a marriage relationship? Those are two different things.

Take this time and feel all of it. If you smash down your feelings you'll just need to deal with them later. Surrender to it and go with it and you'll come out the other side fine.

If you read what you wrote about W's behavior in the marriage it doesn't paint a very flattering picture. What was it about YOU that sought a woman who behaved that way, and how will you deal with yourself such that you don't seek it again?

Acc