Blu, just curious - what does this look like in spending time with your H? Are you affectionate or do you keep your physical distance?
It's hard for me to picture having the detached attitude and also having a pleasant time. How does it work?
(And just in case, there's a total lack of sarcasm in my inquiry. I can't picture how you interact!)
Oh I don't mind sarcasm anyhow :-) I am not sure what we look like to others. If you saw us in public we look like a normal family, whatever that means. My kids have def commented that we are not affectionate in general. That's accurate, but also has partly always been that way because I am not a touchy-feely type person.
I think most of our day to day interactions are cooperative and friendly. I def have more moments of impatience and irritability than he does, whereas he is more of an avoider and will leave the room. We do gripe and look like an old grumpy couple often.
We still have bursts of laughter, flirtation, and attraction. Those are the moments that keep me going and hopeful that things can be better one day. We were doing one of the Retrouvaille post-sessions and would side eye each other and then laugh at the same time. It happened partly because we are both simultaneously acknowledging how ridiculous we can be. This sense of humor keeps the energy light and keeps us going for sure!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
