It doesn't hurt that I have already expressed that I really want to live in that area as well (and I do). It's just that I would have been fine delaying that 1-3 years with the ability for us both to maximize the jobs we have now and to slowly finish getting the house ready to be sold.
In her defense while she hasn't said we are back together she hasn't excluded me into these future plans. On a trivial note when we come home yesterday before our MC she 'asked' the cats if they wanted to go live in PNW. Now this is not something to over analyze but she has told me I should keep both cats in case we split up since they love each other and I am good to them. Again, I am not making it bigger than it is but I do think it was her subtle way of letting me know: 'look Tobias, I know you are worried but at this point I think we are heading in the right direction'.
The other reason I decided immediately to JUST be supportive was that about a year or so ago she had the opportunity for a temporary position which would cut her salary in half and would require her to move to DC for a few months and HER hope was it would open up jobs for her down the road. I only saw risks and to some degree I didn't see how this was an improvement. Unlike this job where the salary is good, her skill set fits and it fits with a longer term goal. Of course my mistake was that I basically took that moment from her and gave her reasons why she shouldn't do it.
I do think if she gets the offer she should take it. In many ways it makes it easier for us to have her take advantage of it. But perhaps the better choice would be for her to stay. But I don't want this to be something she regrets and then builds resentment for. We just have to wait now...nothing is decided as of this moment.
