Thanks my friends...well it has been an eventfulish week, so I'll post a mini update. I heard from my date of last week suggesting an event this Saturday, but I have other plans and politely told him so, saying I may see him around at another dance event soon.

Should I be more honest and say I didn't really feel attracted to him? I wouldn't want to string someone along if I don't feel there's any romantic potential there? Equally, he hasn't asked outright? I guess I'm just hoping I have met a nice dancing friend.

Saw NG from work this week - haven't seen him for ages and stopped initiating contact TBH. Well, I got a super warm welcome. He wasn't expecting me and jumped up. Said something like - Oh, I'd offer you a kiss but...and faltered. I said to him, I'll give you a kiss and went over and hugged him and kissed him on the cheek.

I sat opposite him all day and we chatted about this and that off and on. I think we get along well, but oh well...we ended the day with me saying I should be in the area a little more and he's welcome to come and see my new place if he'd like. He seemed positive about that, but then he has before and doesn't then initiate that...he's away for a week or so from now with his kids, so we'll see if anything happens.

Had a nice meet up with SS and his Mum and a couple of other friends. Nice to see them and we had a good catch up. You may recall that I met XH a year after their separation and he had just bought his own place after renting for a year. His XW1 told me today that she had remained more involved with him than I had thought after they S - ugh. But no surprise I guess. She said it is possible that he has also given OW the impression that he was more single than he was...I guess there is a behaviour patten there..

Anyway, other than that, I'm busy renovating and working with a bit of social stuff thrown in. I do find I am a calmer and more centred me these days and I like that. I suit myself more...and that is a gift I think.

Many good wishes to you all xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus