Just want to be sure I am not going against any BD'ing rules. Example: W tries to be friendly and I suddenly want nothing to do with her.
There is a chapter in DR on going dark, if I remember right Michele does say it's to protect the LBS and not to restore the M. Basically she says something along the lines of this- if you just can't take the roller coaster of emotions anymore and you feel like you're really spinning then just go completely dark and have nothing to do with the WAS. It's for the LBS, but sometimes it is what shakes the WAS out of the fog. Look at TXHubby's sitch, he basically quit DB'ing and no longer gave his W the time of day, he was -that- done with her. And it ended up being the slap-in-the-face that woke her up. I'm certainly not condoning it as a technique to try and bring the WAS back because it can also drive them away, but if you have had it then there is nothing wrong with going dark if you feel it's the healthiest thing for you.
