STBXW called me today to inform me that she has decided that our daughter will be changing schools and living with her during the week. I told her that she didn't get to make unilateral decisions about where our daughter lived and went to schoolm and she stated that since she gave birth to her, she could indeed do that.
Call your lawyer immediately and see if you can get some sort of temporary order that would prevent her from making changes like moving the child or registering at a school that is not agreed upon. She's doing this because she managed to delay the custody order and she's now making changes in the interim that will impact your rights to your daughter.
It is incredibly difficult to undo actions like this one once they are done. Do not just sit back and hope it gets better. Protect your rights as the father of this kid, now. Spend the money to drop the hammer on her shenanigans or you will regret it for the rest of your life.
She's starting to show signs of potentially being an alienator, East. I'm so sorry. This is using the child as a weapon to score points against you by showing you that she's placing herself in charge and you don't get a say.
This is sick and cruel behavior and I hope you see that. She doesn't care about D, she cares about winning and hurting you. Do not trust anything she implies to you about behaving/accepting her unilateral decisions "for the good of the child." That's what she hopes you do because then she can take actions you won't be able to undo.
I was also alarmed to read the part about her describing you as yelling and screaming when that didn't actually take place, and that she was scared.
Do not be alone inside a structure without adult witnesses with this woman, and consider a voice activated recorder (local laws permitting) to protect yourself from false accusations.
Better to be prepared than sorry if false accusations of abuse are her next step. I see signs she may be headed that way, especially if you're able to successfully stop her from taking your daughter.
